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What Drives Change? Part II
My first takeaway about what drives change from watching my friend (see Part I to this blog HERE) is about how change does NOT happen – and that’s getting someone to change.
It’s what we call an outside in approach: marshalling sufficient logic, eloquence, or pressure through circumstances or words that schlep the changee to a new place. The alternative would be the inside out approach.
There’s a space within us that already resides in clarity, certainty, and confidence – an inner knowing. Real and healthy change happens through a person touching that. That inner knowing is what gives us the calm to be open to something new and the security to act on it.
When not touching that knowing place, we’re a jumble of thoughts without a center. Our mind is a restless, whirring computer seeking security through analysis of options and data that by design cannot reassure us.
In the presence of our own inner knowing, we settle down. We feel we have a home base, a sense of security. Options and choices come into focus and we can move forward.
This understanding became clearer to me after failing umpteen times to change my big kids’ angry reactions to a younger sibling. MORE